'Strip absent fathers' of benefits
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Unemployed absent fathers who refuse to take up work experience offers should be stripped of their benefits, a report has recommended.Filed under: Debt
Unemployed absent fathers who refuse to take up work experience offers should be stripped of their benefits, a report has recommended.
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I was a single mum for 7 years, because my then husband decided he didn't like being a dad. We had 2 children (aged 3 and 1) and I was 5 months pregnant with the 3rd when he walked out. I met my current husband (of 10 yrs) 7 years after the 1st one left. It's been 18 years since I had any contact with the biological father of my children, but now the CSA have tracked him down and are taking us both to court for maintenance. I don't want it or need it. My children are now young adults. But the CSA won't listen. They insist he has to pay. And him? He said he'll only pay if they all quit colleg/ university and do some sort of 'youth training' instead. My eldest has a job..4 days a week..and is ion college the other 3. the middle child attends university 5 days a week, and my youngest is also in college 4 days a week. What right does my ex-husband, after having no contact with them in 18 years (his choice) have to tell them what to do now? IF he'd wanted to be their lives he could have kept in contact through any number of family and friends, or even the solicitor. He coulkd have asked for access or custody. He chose to do nothing. Instead, he decided he didn't like being a dad, walked out on three kids, shacked up with another woman 6 weeks later and within 10 months had another son.
Sometimes, its best for the CSA to butt out and leave families alone. My ex-husband wants nothing to do with these three, except he wants (as he puts it) 'my monies worth. If I have to pay for them, they do as they'rer told'.
I know of a guy whose marriage broke down after years of the wife throwing false accuations at him, when he left his daughter, who was a young teenager at the time, said that she wanted no more to do with him, he was out of work at the time, and was claiming umployment benefit for himself, his wife was claiming benefits in her own right due to `ill health' and because of this he was contacted by the CSA and made to pay £5.50 a week from his unemployment benefit, this money didn't go to the wife because her income was above the amount the system reckons is enough for her to live on. The daughter stayed on at school and he was still paying to the CSA up till she was 19 years old. Parents are not always absent through their own choice.
March 15 2012 at 8:53 AM Report abuse Permalink +1 rate up rate down ReplyAnd why didn't the child want anything to do with him, if they had had a loving dad/daughter relationship, she was old enough to know what was going on, I hope he kept in contact with her on birthdays, christmas etc and didn't just walk off with her thinking he was not bothered about her.
March 15 2012 at 9:13 AM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down ReplyWhy shouldn't absentee mothesr be included in the arrangement? They want equality so let's be sure they get it!
March 15 2012 at 8:50 AM Report abuse Permalink +3 rate up rate down ReplyWhy strip benefits ? They will only steal, rob, mug, raid, riot and burgle people like me and maybe you too. Keep the benefits you lazy drop-outs, go and pi** it up the wall instead of supporting your child(ren). . .
March 15 2012 at 8:09 AM Report abuse Permalink +1 rate up rate down Replynot everyone on benefits are lazy drunken drop outs, many are in that situation now because of redundancy thanks to all the cut backs made by companies and this government.
March 15 2012 at 8:49 AM Report abuse Permalink +4 rate up rate down ReplyWill absent mothers lose benefits as well? And what about women who see having children as a way of avoiding work, you know, leave school get up the duff kick out boyfriend etc. Seems very popular nowadays. I would just hope people would put kids first instead of themselves.
March 15 2012 at 7:58 AM Report abuse Permalink +8 rate up rate down ReplyI think most poeple would agree, so long as they don't assume absolutely all absent Fathers therefore must be unemployed, & vice versa! There are valid reasons apart from being feckless or uncaring.
March 15 2012 at 7:25 AM Report abuse Permalink +3 rate up rate down ReplyA friend had been married and they had a daughter.
Things went 'wrong' and they decided to marry.
The court decided to should pay maintenance for the daughter - it was9p per week and he never paid it.
Sorry to hear so many sad stories of fathers who do try, but the issue is about them that don't, won't and cannot see why they should get jobs, these low lifes should have their benefits taken away, the pubs and bookies have plenty of business from a lot of these "why should i" types. But why should i as a working taxpaying citzen pay to bring up another mans kids? Get some pride!! please!! I would rather do work experience and hold my head up high than ponce of society.
March 15 2012 at 5:46 AM Report abuse Permalink -1 rate up rate down ReplyI supported my wife and kids they never wanted for anything. She then had an online affair and moved him in. Two months later they did a moonlight flit to the other side of the country. Im sorry but absent fathers not from their own choosing should not be punished by the csa or anyone else. My exwife made her bed so let her lie in it.
March 15 2012 at 5:21 AM Report abuse Permalink +9 rate up rate down Replynot all fathers are absent through choice. my ex wife took the children away from me and stopped me seeing them and yet the csa still make me pay. why just absent fathers? if you dont want to work or do courses to help you find work you should lose your benifits or at least do community work to earn them.
March 15 2012 at 4:38 AM Report abuse Permalink +8 rate up rate down ReplyIf there was no legal reason for you not to see the children, why didn't you go and seek legal advice and fight her actions?
March 15 2012 at 9:08 AM Report abuse Permalink -2 rate up rate down Replybecause the law does not always listen to the fathers and, they do not like to force the mothers to abide by the ruling. My son had similar problems. The family law needs drastic changes, but, we live in a society that calls black white and white black and wrong right and right wrong. We also now have a government that does not really care one whit about anyone's rights. Don't be fooled by their rhetoric it's all BS!
March 15 2012 at 10:13 AM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down
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